Church Pew Views

I see you , new mom in church, diaper bag stuffed to overflowing with supplies, standing, clutching your baby with one arm, while attempting to turn bulletin pages with one hand free .  Do you know you are admired by the empty nest woman in the pew behind you? She realizes how organized a parent needs to be on a Sunday morning. She remembers the momentous effort, energy and dedication it takes to bring little ones to worship services.  Hang in there, mom! Are you wishing someone would watch over your sleeping miracle while you walk to the Lord’s table? Wondering if the parents room welcomes nursing mothers? Is there a changing table a dad can use (not just in the women’s restroom)? Please ask, and let members know what is helpful in your pursuit of God’s Word.

 I am praying for you, parents with the active twin toddlers, as you attempt to use food, book and blanket bribes to quiet the loud talking or head-bump cries.  Try not to be embarrassed when one gets out of your grasp and runs to the front of the church, or quickly pulls feminine products out of a purse. Even if the elderly man with the hearing aide suggests you make use of the “cry room” during the sermon, please don’t let it chase you and your family away.  Jesus gave you these personalized miracles. You are bringing them to his house. If you know what could assist your worship, let your church council and pastor know.  

You are encouraging other members, parents, as we see you send your children to Sunday school, while you enjoy discussion and coffee in a Bible class.  That hour would be a convenient time to get groceries bought or some errands done so quickly without the kids! Older folks recall how a break from parenting time was treasured.  So, kudos to you as you prioritize continued learning of God’s Word. Above all literature ever written, it ALWAYS gives a blessing.

Pray for my repentance, sisters in Christ, as I envy a child-filled pew, and covet a grand-parenting role.  No one warns you how displaced a mother can feel when children leave home for spouses and careers. (Maybe if they didn’t turn out to be such wise, compassionate adults, missing them wouldn’t be a problem!)  God points out my ingratitude during the confession of sins. As pastor proclaims forgiveness, my grace guarantee is renewed. 

“Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another.” Hebrews 10: 25

Isn’t it curious that God lumps together a mix of sin-sick (yet redeemed) people of various ages and life stages for a congregation? With the many backgrounds, time constraints and opinions of even the smallest membership, it is humanly surprising that such a gathering can function!  The existence of our churches is a cause for praise. 

Whatever the distractions in your pew or in your thoughts, remember who rejoices to see you in his house.  Ask God to help you worship, then seek people or ways that would assist. Families, singles, empty nesters:  Keep coming back.