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hhh collage 3 I'm a forgetful girl.

When I first meet you, I might just forget your name. It's not you, it's me. I'm a Name Forget-er. I'm getting better, though, and try try try to speak the name and then slip it into the conversation at least twice while I'm chatting with the person. Names are tough, especially when I'm meeting a slew of new folks at once.

If I don't write something down right away, I'm in trouble. Appointments. Favors for friends. Meeting times. School news. Changes in schedule. Drop-this-offs. So I'm forever scribbling lists and jotting down things on stray pieces of paper and adding notes in margins.

Reminders are my best friend.

I don't stop there.

There are lovely, important reminders around every corner, in every room of our home. The big chalk board in our kitchen has love well written in my imperfect cursive. Love is spoken here hangs in the hallway. The guest room wall holds I have a reason to sing. You have been given today is taped to the fridge door. On the shelf in the living room sits a frame with You shall see wonders.  I could go on and on.

All for a forgetful, sinful, saved girl.

I don't stop there.

Each morning, I clasp delicate reminders around my neck. Snap SHINE around my wrist. Slip be a blessing over my head and place the words over my heart. I wear these around all day and they bring a song to my heart. A smile to my face. A warming to my heart. A prompt to my hands and feet. I am reminded of Who I belong to. Of Where I find my worth. Of what He asks of me.

Reminders for a forgetful, sinful, saved girl.

  My son, pay attention to what I say; turn your ear to my words. Do not let them out of your sight, keep them within your heart. ~Proverbs 4:20-21

 

Jewelry Sources :: beautiful She Knows that He Sees Her necklace from The Adopt Shoppe // my favorite SHINE and What Heights of Love cuffs from Farmgirl Paints. I wear these every.single.day! Use coupon code BLESSED15 to receive 15% off a purchase until November 14th.

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he & she

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he & she he was a college sophomore she was a freshman he caught her eye she hoped he would call he did she fell in love so did he he proposed she said yes he promised and said "I do" so did she 9 years ago

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he is adventure she is safe he challenges her to try she keeps him grounded he reads Hebrew she reads novels he has dimples she has freckles he makes her giggle she loves to hear him laugh he has brown eyes she has green he likes sandwiches she wants chocolate he needs coffee she hates the smell of it he builds she writes he preaches from the pulpit she sits in the pew he is non-stop-on-the-go she takes her time he calls her beautiful she can't believe he is hers he never stops talking she is a good listener he is a tent camper she is a comfy-bed-sleeper he is always in the photo she is forever behind the camera he wakes up early she dreams of sleeping in he dislikes dressing up she likes that his profession requires it he prefers work boots she wears cute flats he plays golf and tennis she has tried and it isn't so pretty he exaggerates she calls him out he loves and treasures her she adores and respects him

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he & she so different so opposite in many ways but that's what makes them click they fit beautifully because of Him

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Friends, have you joined in with #31reasonsilovemyhusband?? Kelly's thoughts and the heart behind the challenge are inspiring many ladies to share what they love and appreciate about their husbands during the month of August. What a fun, uplifting way to acknowledge and celebrate them!

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Why keep my love a secret?

I've really been enjoying Kelly's encouragement from her post last week to share 31 reasons why we love our husbands throughout the month of August. I have to admit this challenge started on a day where I was anything but thrilled with my husband and was not looking for an opportunity to highlight his good qualities. But I am glad to say that this challenge has repelled those grumblings as I'm spending the day looking for the good - the blessed - the gifted to me from him. IMG_0056

I have shared my love for my husband with you, but you know what?

When he asked me why I was taking his picture when he was filling his water bottle... I averted his question with a smirk and shuffled away.

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When he walked into the office tonight and saw the #31reasonsilovemyhusband feed up on my Facebook... I minimized it.

When I have shared on Instagram reasons that I love him ... I haven't told him.

Why? It's not like we are back in high school and I'm a bit shy around him. Though I'm crushing on him a little more lately. :) But really, his love language is "words of affirmation" and I am terrible at encouraging him with my words. So much that I have actually avoided it. ugh. It's my ugly little nature to think that the little and big things Frank does for me are expected or I that I am entitled to them. No, I should affirm my love for him throughout our daily lives and not just in August.

Words have power. I need to tell him. He needs me to tell him.

Proverbs 18:20-23 From the fruit of their mouth a person’s stomach is filled;     with the harvest of their lips they are satisfied.

The tongue has the power of life and death,     and those who love it will eat its fruit.

He who finds a wife finds what is good     and receives favor from the Lord.

What now? Can my husband receive goodness from me even when I don't think he deserves it? Has my positive thinking somehow made my husband a superman fulfilling all my desires? No. But my feelings on my husband should not dictate how I treat or talk to him.  Intentionally thinking on the positive aspects of our relationship despite his (and my!) imperfections is good to do. Isn't that what Jesus does when he looks at me? Doesn't Jesus bring goodness, healing, forgiveness, and gentle love to me daily whether I deserve it or not? That is grace.

May I love my husband with my words. May I love him in the ways he deserves and in the ways he doesn't. That's the point of grace. Grace is underserved love.

Proverbs 16:24 Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

So what now? Should I go the whole month and surprise him with the 31 things all at once? Tell him about the challenge today and how it has blessed our marriage already? Either way I know where I need to go first. To our Lord.

Dear Lord,  I have not been using my words to build my husband up. Please forgive me for the words that I have left unsaid. My husband is a gift from you. He shares your love with me. Thank you for him. Thank you for this challenge to increase my appreciation for my husband and for you. As Psalm 141:3 says, "Set a guard over my mouth, Lordkeep watch over the door of my lips." Help me communicate my own love for him and to tell him what makes me feel loved. Lord, may your words be in my heart to bring healing, forgiveness, and growth to our marriage. Life! In Jesus' name I pray, Amen.

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I've never been big on clicking hashtags and haven't even used one until this challenge. Shocker! :o But following #31reasonsilovemyhusband has been fun to see all the unique ways you ladies are loved. Some of you have even listed more than one reason a day! I definitely feel a greater sense of community growing at Holy Hen House that glorifies God and our marriages. If you haven't begun the challenge yet there's no reason you can't start today! Join us!

Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram to tell us the reasons why you love your husband and then... tell him!

 

Here's one of my many favorites:

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